Jenn Dolari @dolari@driveinsaturday.org

Terrifying.

A week or so ago I made a post commenting that people who are not LGBTQIA+ cannot be trusted to be allies. It upset some folks.

Every day since then I've seen evidence backing what I said up.

So, to be clear. while I do not think that every cis het person is a bad person...

If you are a person who identifies as the gender that aligns with the sex you were assigned at birth (cis) and if you're someone whose sexuality is heterosexual (het), then listen up.

STOP telling LGBTQIA+ people that they're hysterical or making a mountain out of a metaphorical molehill. Stop telling them that they're blowing things out of proportion.

Listen to their concerns. Learn why they're scared. Be EMPATHIC. Be CURIOUS. LEARN. And for fuck's sake STOP TALKING FOR US (You wouldn't believe how frustrating it can be to have someone who says they're an ally talking on our behalf or pretending that they know more than we do about our own experiences).

Let US Speak for OURSELVES. Ask us what WE WANT, not assume you know best. And for goodness' sake, stop sending us news stories and articles because we're your one LGBTQIA+ friend. Those stories are often triggering, especially for those of us who deal with discrimination and hate on a daily basis. It's okay to ask if we're aware of a story - but ask us before tagging us. Often randomly-shared stuff with no warning can be triggering.

Be INTENTIONAL about your support. Saying you're an ally isn't enough. Be there with us on the protest line. Be there when we fall. Lift us up. Celebrate our accomplishments, and fight like hell when people are wanting us to not exist. Stop supporting JK Rowling, Elon Musk, and every other person who has spewed hate our way.

Stop spending your money going to parts of the world where we aren't welcome. Let those who support hate know that you don't support hate, and you won't support their hate. Stop saying that because "x" person has done good we should overlook their hate, or implying that we're blowing things out of proportion. If the house is on fire, we expect you to believe us.

VOTE WITH YOUR WALLET AND YOUR HEART.

Strangely, when you stop supporting a brand that's doing bad things today they reconsider things pretty quickly...

Work on an election campaign. Volunteer, get involved. Know the legislation that's being passed to try and eradicate and discriminate. (https://www.erininthemorning.com is a great starting place). Support businesses, creators, journalists and individuals who are being active allies, growing our communities, and making the world better.

And stop, for the love of everything, stop pretending it's not your problem.

IT'S EVERYONE'S PROBLEM.

#Trans
#LGBTQIA
#Democracy
#Hate

YouTube rolls out warnings for AI-manipulated videos

YouTube wants "realistic" likenesses or audio fabrications to be labeled.

https://arstechnica.com/gadgets/2024/03/youtube-rolls-out-warnings-for-ai-manipulated-videos/?utm_brand=arstechnica&utm_social-type=owned&utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social

We made a comic about angels.

🤔 We should improve developer experience, in a way that's better for user experience as well.

My pitch: unions.

If something is rare, you don’t have to account for it in your theory. For instance, 98% of baryonic matter in the visible universe is hydrogen or helium. Therefore we can say that there are only two elements, and that “carbon-based lifeforms” are simply confused.

I don't want to be more productive I want to feel less guilty for being unproductive

Picard management tip: Every officer needs to be in charge of something they understand, even if it's just radishes.

Book shopping? Always shop local

(bookstores don't have everything but they can get it from the distributor, it's easy to ask. Public libraries also have purchase request forms, and I have I think a 100% success rate using our library's form)

https://news.bloomberglaw.com/litigation/amazon-accused-of-selling-fake-copies-of-nyt-bestselling-book

This blows my mind.
https://patreon.com/lowqualityfacts

@SallyStrange @blogdiva

My experience is that people who believe all of their beliefs are the sole product of logic and empiricism are just as devoted to their faith in their beliefs as any evangelical.

Glassdoor adding users’ real names, job info to profiles without consent

Anonymous review site Glassdoor now consults public sources to identify users.

https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2024/03/glassdoor-adding-users-real-names-job-info-to-profiles-without-consent/?utm_brand=arstechnica&utm_social-type=owned&utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social

always be healing

I hope that when they do find the One Piece, it's a bathing suit

Hands: Las Manos del Destino

Boston Cream Pie: It's a Cake™